The first thing to do with what looks and feels like a difficult situation of any kind is to see that it isn’t a difficult situation at all, just a complex of factors producing the illusion of a difficult situation and in fact is merely an interesting opportunity to enjoy some contact with the background presence informing all situations, in order to discover the way through it.
Secondly comes appreciating that all others are an expression of the background presence in human form, no matter how cleverly disguised (usually to the individual concerned as well). And with this appreciation, exercising the faculty for loving it – loving the Tao, the background presence informing them you and the dynamic between you.
As soon as you can see the other as an expression of the Tao rather than as an obstacle to be overcome, their energy field will shift in quality and tone for the better in your respect.
All you need do then is ask the Tao to provide a quantum shift, either by direct communication between both or all parties, by the natural flow of events, or by a combination of the two. And if requested from the heart with sincerity, this opportunity will arise spontaneously often taking you by surprise.
Finally see yourself having jumped clean over the apparent hurdle and standing on the other side feeling the relief of resolution.
The Taoists developed many fine interpersonal energy directing tricks to expedite stuck situations between you and others
Having gone through the procedure suggested above, we’re now going to look into a method which entails a powerful bit of magic, so sensitize yourself and centre by breathing slowly.
Clear your mind by pulling your focal point backwards into the midbrain.
Now open and soften your heart and visualize whoever it is you’re having difficulties with standing directly in front of you, face to face.
Now visualize a column of deep rose-gold-violet light descending from the heavens onto the crown of their head and thence penetrating all the way down to their heart. Visualize their heart glowing with this light, basking in it and relaxing. And as it relaxes, see their face soften so much they are transformed into a compassionate Buddha before your very eyes.
Now, mustering all the power of the Tao and all the love in your heart, speak to that Buddha within them and say, ‘bless you’, three times with sincerity.
And if you haven’t miraculously overcome your problems with them within but a very short while, I’ll eat my shoes.
May you enjoy sublime harmony with everyone in your world today, tonight and from now on.